February 2023: The ELEPHANT AND THE BLIND PERSPECTIVEINTRO: I have been thinking about creating a

I have been thinking about creating a blog for a while, and just to be upfront, I am a VERY reluctant writer. I have avoided this skill for most of my life, doing writing only when required in school or work. (sigh) What can I say, other than the thought of writing a blog as been niggling in my brains dark recesses and has burst forth to give voice to me! If you are familiar with the woundings of school classes or teachers, you will understand! I apologize a head of time for poor grammar, punctuation or spelling errors! I will eventually miss something.

INTENTIONS:

I intend the entries to be related to the family constellations processes, but since this is my blog, I now declare it to be whatever seems important to me that particular moment, day, week or month. I have learned to have immense curiosity on the workings of other people and myself. In the beginning of my healing journey, I would not have labeled me curious,. just a bundle of fear and confusion . This is what drew me into various types of work and I finally recognize I don’t have to live like this.

THE ELEPHANT:

I have heard the parable regarding the blind men trying to describe an elephant to each other. You probably have all heard it, but I will proceed paraphrasing anyway. Each man touches a different part of the elephant. The first one has the tail, “The elephant is snake like” he declares. The second one has his ear: “no it is large and flat.” The third feels his feet, “no, an elephant is like a tree trunk!” Each is correct in his assessment of the elephant.

This story so relates to the Family Constellation process. Each of us and our family members carry slightly or very large different views of what happened within our family systems. My teacher, Suzi Tucker, refers to it as, “what happened around the kitchen table”.

I find being aware of these different perspectives extremely useful to my own self discoveries. In my A-HA moments, it is often a phrase that cracks open the “stuck-ness” in order to experience something new. I may have heard it a dozen times before, but just this once I experienced it differently. Finding peace with my father occurred when someone said the phrase “he has made a difference in your life.” This truth finally sunk in!

I honor my father everyday now, and he is long gone. It’s never too late.